Law of Attraction (part 2)

I have a vision board, I haven't looked at it in a while and am currently culling magazines to start another one, now that I have a fuller clearer picture of what I want life to look like for me.  It's interesting how many times in the past week I've heard things about what you say to yourself and how that shapes the world.  So if I setup a new vision board what can I do differently with my self-talk to make the things I see real?

In the session with Andy Dooley he explained why the Law doesn't work for people, why they get so frustrated. We put messages out in the universe about what we want but we don’t really believe we deserve it so we do a half assed job believing in ourselves.  Sound familiar? How about this? I really want that new job, I'm going to get my resume updated. I'm going to do the online application and I'm going to research the company so I'm ready.  The minute we submit the application we begin to doubt. I've never done that before, I am overreaching. I could never do the job. They are never going to call so that's what we put out for God or the universe to respond to. They hear I could never do it so they don’t give it to us.

The battle rages inside our heads, we ask for one thing and then immediately sabotage ourselves.  In church this week I heard the same message, we ask for something and then doubt it, we pray and then doubt we will receive. So we are sending mixed messages what we want versus denying we want it. What if we didn’t?  What if we trusted that the universe, that God was working in our best interests?

I've talked about it before but it bears repeating, the dialog I have historically had with myself has been so horrifyingly negative that I would immediately dropped any person who spoke to me like that. I have to admit though since I've become more aware of this, of how I want to shape my future I have caught myself much more frequently and have been able to stop the negative self talk.  There are two ways I started doing this.  I posted last January how when I hear these negative voices I stop them by putting the voice into my best friend Jen's voice.  Jen's been my best friend and champion for more years than I'm interested in sharing. Jen has zero credibility with me because she believes in me 100% so when the negative voices won't go away I put them in her voice and they stop.  Jen would never speak to me with anything other than love, and that's teaching me to speak to myself only with love.

Another way that I was able to stop the negative thoughts are to consider them objectively.  In Brene Brown's book she mentions considering negative thoughts with the idea of isn't that interesting and letting it go.  I've been in some situations lately where I've had opportunities to interact with negative people. In the past I would take every look, every movement, every whisper as a an indication of something that I did wrong.  This time, this time it was different. I was able to look at the situation, consider it and dismiss it as interesting and ultimately nothing to do with me.  Each person reacts to their own agenda and that has nothing to do with me. 

So how does all this tie back to the Law of Attraction?  If we can monitor our thoughts, if we can take the high road and not react in negative situations to the people around us then we have a chance to make things different.  This time right now, this time is transition and we don't do transition well.  Andy Dooley talks about this a lot, that we get the picture of the end game but we don’t wait for it well, we don't do transition well.  All the books and articles talk about how to get to the end game, they don't talk about how hard it is to wait for it.

There are a million different ways to say it, in God's time, one day at a time, thy will be done.  They are all saying the same thing, that we have to wait for whatever it is that we want.  There is a caveat on that too, sometimes what we want isn't the right thing at all. How many times have we wished or prayed for something and not gotten it, only to get something much better in its place? I have yet in my life to not have had things work out better than even I could have prayed for.  The key is letting it go. Say the prayer, do the work and let it go.

Next up, more on navigating transition but in the mean time, be kind, be gentle and pay attention to the stories you are telling yourself.